“Know your worth – you have value”

Welcome friends, and friends who I have not yet met.

Good to have you here.

This is a place to chill, grab a drink, maybe put some music on, and enjoy……..

I really want to start off this blog with a huge “thank you” to all who view, follow, and support this journey.

From the bottom of my heart:

thank you

 

This is merely just the start and much more to come, so buckle up folks!

There will be laughter, tears, openness, confessions, real life struggles, you name it..it is real, it is life, and what is more YOU ARE INVITED to be a part of not only my story, my journey, but also to help others.

We live in such a broken world with so many broken people, wounded, yet beautiful without being told it or know. Some people have given up thinking that there are good folks still out there, I know there are…YOU!

Many of these folk feel they have no value, nothing to offer – but I want to prove them wrong.

Many of us do not value or even know what we have to offer.

Do you ever ask yourself that – “what do I have to offer?” I know I do.

Sometimes even the offering we have does not seem to make us feel valued – can anyone relate?

So many people I know are people pleaser’s, and this is so humbling if you are one of these or who know people like these, but often deep down these are often the saddest and loneliest people I know, hiding their insecurities behind looking after others. A lot of my friends are certainly these type.

I think what is worse to hear sometimes and even sadder is when they tell me that they do not feel listened to. I always feel convicted when I hear this, because as good as I think I am at listening, I have to question, AM I a good listener?

There is a beautiful word that I like to use (and which I am working on) which is “honour” – How can I show that I honour someone, value them, show them that I am listening? If their experience is that they are not used to those things, how can I be different.

I WANT TO BE DIFFERENT! counter cultural even that.

>>>>>DARE TO BE DIFFERENT.<<<<<

I would like to leave with a beautiful quote from a blog I saw when I was thinking about this topic. It certainly gave me soul food for thought. I hope you like it.

know your worth

It’s also incredibly important to know your own value as a person. We’re all amazing, unique, gifted individuals, and yet we don’t inherently know that. We tend to place our worth in the hands of others, and usually people who don’t deserve any say in how worthy we truly are. Your worth isn’t defined by whether or not someone else loves, sees, values, appreciates, or adores you, it’s inherent. You are worthy because you’re alive. Regardless of your mistakes and failures, you’re worthy of an amazing life and complete happiness. If you want others to see and appreciate you for who you truly are, know and honour that worth. Never settle for less than you deserve, don’t tolerate being treated like garbage, and always demand the absolute best for yourself in every situation.

Please do check out the link for other ways to be seen, be loved and valued for who you really are – Perhaps one day I  could write a whole book on this.

Have a kind day:)

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Steven Alexander

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Going Nowhere.

Welcome.
A few people have been talking to me about this feeling of life not going anywhere, they feel like they are drifting, have nothing to offer, or no value, they want more but…….
I feel like this sometimes, so if this is you or some one you know, this blog is just for you.
“Do you ever feel like a plastic bag
Drifting thought the wind
Wanting to start again
Do you ever feel, feel so paper thin
Like a house of cards
One blow from caving in
Do you ever feel already buried deep
Six feet under scream
But no one seems to hear a thing?”

I was in a place of questioning life, everything, doubts, self issues, you name it, and as depressed as I became I began to grapple the above questions, even more so when this song came on. In the end I had to search for it, but in a way it was like the “Alpha and Omega” beginning and end for me.

I am not a fan of being called “baby” as a term of affection, but as I write this blog right now, I am actually re thinking that word “baby” as a way of describing .. an actual “baby” like someone is singing to a baby inspiring it, encouraging it to be great. As mature as we may be, I think there will always be that inner child in us, and to our parents, we will always be their child.

For those this blog is for, you will get what I am talking about and relate to a level. For others of you, who are are not in this place yourself – awesome, but you may come across others who are – YOU CAN MAKE THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN LIFE and not – GIVE LIFE!

This song is not everyone’s flavor, but look beyond personal preferences, if only for those folks that need you. “You just gotta ignite the light
And let it shine.”

 

 

 

 

 

“You don’t have to feel like a waste of space
You’re original, cannot be replaced
If you only knew what the future holds
After a hurricane comes a rainbow”

 

If you want to talk, share, or need someone to chat through stuff

Go for it………………………………..IGNITE THE LIGHT

Thanks for visiting.

Steven Alexander

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Just do it….

Welcome on in,

A Few years back I took my daughter to swimming lessons. At the mere age of two or younger she was introduced to the concept of “jumping in.” can you imagine because I can’t what that small person was thinking at this command.. “jump what’s that.. This is a new concept.” scared! They may not verbalise it but perhaps there was fear. No way of knowing how deep the water was, who would catch me, what if I do I it wrong… The mind wanders.. But still expectant parents look at their miniature selves with that expectation of you can do it, just do it, I’ve got you. Arms open wide they cheer the youngster on, and low and behold the child falls and the parent catches them.

Now, I’m a little older than that, and I’m hearing that “just do it” voice with my latest ventures yet I’m prevented by the same fears of that small child, why is this?

It seems almost irrational, yet I hold myself back.

With this in mind, I’m declaring next week as a week of “just doing it.” so that book I’ve been meaning to write I will start, the latest hair brained idea to make money or save money I will do, those actions I have been putting off will be actioned.

If I am honest this fear of failure has probably held me back for years, the feeling of not being good enough, not exceeding expectations. If I say I’m doing it, people think I’m full of hot air or laugh at my idea or dream, so I never do them, if I don’t do them then I prove them right, if I do it and fail, I prove them right, if I succeed it will still be not good enough.

Well I declare enough is enough.. If I fail at least I’ve tried, if I succeed it will be by my own merits (and maybe some encouragement) but I no longer want to be ruled by low self esteem or feelings of failure.

My dreams may differ from others but doesn’t make them any less valuable so I am learning about this word value and valuing myself.

Maybe you are a dreamer or been putting off something, or scared of that thing that’s been maybe nudging you to do.. Let me encourage you, if me and all my issues can do this so can you.

Need help support or encouragement? Let me know I’d be happy to help.

Peace and love folks.

Steven Alexander

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