“Your Body is Your Business”


What relationship do you have with your body?

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I am Steven Alexander, writer, blogger, parent, healthcare support worker. Welcome to my blog!

The above question seems a strange and personal question to ask, but so many of us have huge self body issues which really affects how we feel and how we think, and affects our self esteem. This is not just females this affects it is males too, and actually, realistically non gender specific.

Do you compare yourself to other people and wish you had their looks, their physique, do they get the good comments and attention and you get…….not the same?

Truthfully, we never really know what is going on in someone elses life, and how someone else might be feeling, because even those that we may consider attractive to them… they could have just as big issues as us all!

The mirror Image

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mirror mirror on the wall

As I stand infront of the mirror I am one of those people who try and avoid it.

As I look, it is easy for me to find fault with myself, and hear those voices from past about what I look like, and it acts to re-inforce how I feel about my body and also myself. Isn’t it amazing how many of us remember and hold on to the negatives!

Perhaps you too, are one of those people that wish they could change so much about themselves but see it as a pipe dream, as un realistic maybe, maybe you tried those diets or many of them and they just did not work for you and now you have given up…. if this is you, I hear you, I understand.

It is your body – who cares?

If you are hating yourself or dislike yourself or worse because of how you look like and you feel like no one cares how you feel, and maybe you have given up caring I want you to know I care and if you need to talk I am here, get in touch

Why do I care? what do I know about body issues?

As some one who has had low self esteem for as long as I can remember, I know what this feels like , for me at least, the self hating, and how deep that can affect the mind and the heart. As some one with big ears, bad skin, obese, unkept teeth, skin tags… my list goes on and on.

As a self harmer, my body was the one thing in my life I felt I had control over so when I was in a bad way I would not take care of myself as maybe those in a good mental state would do as normal.

Some people might just see the outside and make comments about size or smells as yes my hygine was not as good as it should have been because I did not value myself or have self worth, but of course no one knows the inner you and may just see some one as “having issues” “acts wierd” “self obessesed” what ever coping strategies we may use to compensate what we feel inside.

But it does not have to be this way! – I say again it does not have to be this way.

IF THIS IS YOU, AND YOU CAN RELATE TO ANY OF THE ABOVE – STOP!!!!!

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In the past I always put others first and when it came to myself it was like I did not matter.

I became tired, exhausted , used, misunderstood and as I looked after others needs more and more, my own just fell away. One day I just said to myself enough was enough and I was going to end it all one way or another.

I started on a journey of self development helping myself to be better and I began to seek help and support. I realised that by bettering myself I could help more people.

What the right support can achieve

Increase Confidence.

Gain Respect

People asking for your help.

Begin to look after yourself,

No longer listen to, or hang around toxic people.

Stress and anxiety levels drop.

Feelings of depression lowered.

Are you looking to improve your life? – Let me help!

Thank you for reading!

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ACKNOWLEDGMENTS AND THANKS

A special thank you to my own network and friends including soul cafe tribe,”Tribal support” “Nourish” “mastermind” “samaritan University” mencap crew, Coach Hannah Lucy Galliers, Kain Ramsey – www.achology.com,

Jon Holder – Peak Perfomance Coach (your ultimate year) http://www.jonholder.co.uk

Flavia Powell hynotherapist, life coach and Happiness Engineer http://flaviapowell.co.uk

and a special thanks to an amazing guy,.the insperation of this post, who has inspired me to be consistant and just “start”, he is all about fitness diet, mindet, business, coach to entrepeneurs, the awesome Ollie Jordan Matthews http://www.revitalizeationblueprint.com

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Thought about “Friends” lately?

Welcome Friend!

What makes a good friend, great friend or the best? Do you have a good friend or best friends, the sort you can tell anything to, be yourself with and share your inner most thoughts?

How could I write todays theme without reffering to this series which was and still is huge. It is of course as the title suggests “Friends”

If for any reason you have not seen this, it is about a group of best friends and their lives together, their ups downs, togethers, apart, laughter, tears, the coffee shop, the couch, the apartments and the characters which many of us could relate to.

The question at school when I was growing up in the play ground or in class was often which friends character are you?  

I thought “Joey” was the best because “Joey does not share food” and I am not one for sharing food

.If you have never seen an episode I do fully reccomend it and I think it is the best and available here on “Amazon” or “Google” “Friends”

Good friend Great friend or The best

I wonder when you think of the word “Friend” what words pop up when you think of it……. I am guessing mostly positive and if I asked you to think of a certain good friend who has or does mean a lot you can probably picture them.. what memories come to mind?

If I look on” facebook” I wonder if that definition of “friend” would fit those say on “facebook” or other forms of social media or even people at work, do you class them as friends? would you class any family members as friends?


Strong Good, Great Best friendships?

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A definition of a good, great and best friendship

For me this sums up where I am at with good friends because I believe you are who you attract around you – and that matters.

Who do you attract in your life and add to your good friends list and why?

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Levels of good friendships. “Good” “Great” “Best”

There is a saying “iron sharpens iron” we attract like minded people…friends who motivate us and just know our mindset, because these are the type that love us for who we are BUT….. are all our friends good for us? This may sound a crazy question to ask and may sound harsh but is it?


Healthy Good friendships V toxic ones

Some friends can appear “well meaning” some can appear to “share” your joy when in reality they “seethe”… some may gossip about you, and some may even hurt you because we allow them to get close and they know us inside and out – have you ever experienced that? and some “friendships” are “toxic” meaning that actually, thay may not be the healthiest or the “best for us relationships”

I wonder if different friends come into our lives for different seasons and reasons like the kind that are are so special and amazing but then dissapear!

Have you ever had any of those and you wonder where those people are now!


Grateful for Good, Great and Best friends

I think good friends really do make us and shape us, and as my mom n dad would say, choose your friends well and the company you keep wisely.

Huge thank you to all my my good friends past present and future. I honour you and thank you from the bottom of my heart BECAUSE

YOU KEEP ME GOING

You really are the greatest and Best!

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Image of good,great, best friends holding hands

Thank you for reading.

Steven Alexander

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