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A Few years back I took my daughter to swimming lessons. At the mere age of two or younger she was introduced to the concept of “jumping in.” can you imagine because I can’t what that small person was thinking at this command.. “jump what’s that.. This is a new concept.” scared! They may not verbalise it but perhaps there was fear. No way of knowing how deep the water was, who would catch me, what if I do I it wrong… The mind wanders.. But still expectant parents look at their miniature selves with that expectation of you can do it, just do it, I’ve got you. Arms open wide they cheer the youngster on, and low and behold the child falls and the parent catches them.
Now, I’m a little older than that, and I’m hearing that “just do it” voice with my latest ventures yet I’m prevented by the same fears of that small child, why is this?
It seems almost irrational, yet I hold myself back.
With this in mind, I’m declaring next week as a week of “just doing it.” so that book I’ve been meaning to write I will start, the latest hair brained idea to make money or save money I will do, those actions I have been putting off will be actioned.
If I am honest this fear of failure has probably held me back for years, the feeling of not being good enough, not exceeding expectations. If I say I’m doing it, people think I’m full of hot air or laugh at my idea or dream, so I never do them, if I don’t do them then I prove them right, if I do it and fail, I prove them right, if I succeed it will still be not good enough.
Well I declare enough is enough.. If I fail at least I’ve tried, if I succeed it will be by my own merits (and maybe some encouragement) but I no longer want to be ruled by low self esteem or feelings of failure.
My dreams may differ from others but doesn’t make them any less valuable so I am learning about this word value and valuing myself.
Maybe you are a dreamer or been putting off something, or scared of that thing that’s been maybe nudging you to do.. Let me encourage you, if me and all my issues can do this so can you.
Need help support or encouragement? Let me know I’d be happy to help.
Peace and love folks.