Planning and Stress Reduction.

Planning – Are you a planner? plan your days, your life?

Do you value and respect your time? and What is your time worth?

When you think of the word “planning” what comes to mind?

How would you scale your planning skills out of 10? 0 being not good to 10 pro.

Lots of questions but can you answer them?

I would say I am a 5 or 6. however realistically I am about a 2 still on occasion.

Would being better at planning help you or make no difference?

For me, planning was a word that filled me with dread, and to an extent it still does!

When I think about planning I think future, overwhelm, restrictive, stress, anxiety.

If I am honest, not the most positive emotions come to mind – however this is changing…….. and I will share why!

Planning can reduce stress and anxiety

To some degree, many of us can relate to stress and anxiety whether it is our own, or being on the receiving end of others.

At times I can have awful stress and anxiety, and I thought this was something, I just had to live with.

I notice that many others suffer the same as me, so in a sense this became “normal” and I accepted this.

If like me, you feel that life is chaotic and you feel like you don’t know if you are coming or going and it feels like you have not done anything, yet you feel so exhausted, then you have come to the right place and this post is for you.

If maybe you are an expert at planning, then please do feel free to leave any tips or hacks that could help others out.

Planning to change? – Change is possible!

One day, I decided to talk to myself as I often did, and started to ask myself what was causing me stress and anxiety. I wrote down a long list. My lack of planning and not knowing where my time had gone was causing me huge stress.

I wondered if this was something I could change, and if so how?

It was time to get to work.

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i) Change Mindset ii) Learn iii) Action

First of all challenge your thinking around planning and what this means to you. Learn to either replace the negative emotions around it or over ride them.

  • I knew that I no longer wanted to feel the way I did. (change emotions and thoughts)
  • I knew that better planning would benefit me and my relationships with others (realise the benefits)
  • I knew that I had no idea about planning and I had to learn and seek help. (Know your limits)
  • Action the changes and the learning.

Distractions and Procrastination.

Action and Procrastination

Recognise and admit it is easy to get distracted.

If like me, you find distractions are more fun.

Procrastination is the habit of talking about stuff you want to do or intend to do.

Do these benefit you?

Do these help you to get done what you need to? if yes then that it is fine and good but if not, be mindful when you doing these try to re focus.

Learn to be strict on yourself. and remind yourself why you are doing it.

Next

Steps.

If you think you need help and want support with planning and get in touch

If you are an expert at planning and have something to offer to help others. – drop me a line or I can link to your services

Have other types of stress and anxiety and need to chat – get in touch see if I can help – free consultations available. .

Thank you for reading.

Steven Alexander.

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Winner not whiner

Have you ever said to yourself “I want to be a winner/successful!” or maybe you just know you are a winner/successful, or maybe you think you are the opposite…. when it comes to life.. inside you feel a loser.” Does any of this sound familiar?

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What makes a winner/successful person?

Have you ever heard the phrase “It doesn’t matter if you win or lose it is the taking part that counts.”

Has anyone ever said that to you? what are your thoughts? Agree/Disagree?

When I was younger these words gave me comfort when I lost at things until I began to get older. I found as I grew up I became quite used to losing.

At the time, this was hard and painful, and became just an accepted way of life for me, so I guess when it came to having to compete as I grew older, I either took a step back or did not bother as it was too much like hard work, or I did not want it enough, or I thought some one else was better than me anyway even before I tried.. and I if I was honest I probably made excuses why I could not be better.

At one point I think I even laughed at my label of being a loser, because if I accepted I was a loser it was never going to bother me if others thought that of me because I knew this anyway of myself. Does any of this sound familiar in your life or maybe you know others like this.

This year I promised myself I was going to get rid of this mentality, because truthfully was I, am I a loser….actually no!

Today I found an old pay slip from 2 years back….and it made me sad..yes I was glad I was in a job but I was barely making ends meet choosing to go part time so I could spend more time raising my kids, being there for them in there younger years and supporting at home with house hold chores and as much as I was able.

In some ways this was great, but financially this was a struggle and how others manage I do not know. I was getting fed up. I had to do something to turn life around!

I once asked my father how can I be there for my family and make a decent amount of money… he replied “you cannot have both…” I wondered if this was true and I wanted to prove that not only was this possible but could be done successfully. If I was to succeed I had to learn to be a winner, think like a winner, live as if a winner.

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HAVE A WINNER/SUCCESS MENTALITY.

I had to learn what it was to have this mentality –

Lack of knowledge/experience/training: what did I know about having a winners mentality.. last time I had won anything was when I was 5 when I won my race on sports day, and once about 10 when I won a swimming race..these moments felt good, and as I looked back on the moments and those feelings I wanted those feelings again.

Suddenly I can no longer say I do not have experience as I re live those moments…. I can …. I did….I won!

Perhaps when I think hard and deep enough there are other “moments” I have achieved or felt proud but somehow these have been forgotten and i need to draw these out.

Make a start.

At some stage I am guessing you too also won at something or achieved something – you too can use those moments to make a start on your journey.

Educate yourself – train yourself – So many of us have bad experiences of education or teachers and maybe feeling a failure or a loser and perhaps you was not that person in top sets, or that person chosen to be in the team..perhaps when you think of your time in education it takes you to a time of being bullied – but you can turn this all around!

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The internet now means at the touch of a button we can search for whatever we need to learn….and there are different ways you can learn from videos to websites to podcasts and now more recently the likes of amazons “Alexa” or Apples “Siri” can do the searching for free.

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I love free things.

Cost does not have to be an issue any more or should stop you in starting as so many things are free and lots of free resources out there. Do not have your own internet? I bet many have phones..and many places in town have free WiFi or if you have a library you can use their computers or ask friends and family to use use theirs.. maybe learn something together with someone! DO NOT HAVE TO DO IT ALONE!

Try these 10 steps.

  1. Ask yourself what is the problem.
  2. What is that you really want?
  3. what are you currently doing about it?
  4. what steps can you take now?
  5. Set up specific goals, you need to know where you are going. …
  6. Take responsibility for your actions. …
  7. Form a winning habit. …
  8. Don’t be afraid to fail. …
  9. Be eager to learn – re focus
  10. Be proud of yourself

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