How a 4am stomach ache turned out to be an amazing morning!

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Have you ever had one of those major stomach aches that just get you up in the night, or you have to go on the bladder run in the early hours – and then you just cannot go back to sleep?

welcome to kitchen talk – I am sat with coffee at silly o clock watching the world go by and thinking those random thoughts you think when just absent in mind and far away, have you ever done that?

Last night the phrase “lost in awesome abandonment” just popped in my head, and a real sense of “wow, life is good” There I was just stocking my fridge, my freezer, my fruit bowl .. well .. look at this…

Are you a fruity person?

Life has not always been like this, far from it. In the last few years I had dealt with child abuse which my mind had locked away, I had been homeless, in debt, yet here I now was over looking the sea in my apartment, with food, good friends online supporting me with website work, being my business champions, giving me love, I was re united with an old college friend and for once I felt life was good.

life is our teacher

Life does have a habit of teaching us many things whether we have ears to listen or a heart that is open, but in truth we can be so full of hurt or anger that we can often miss the tiny things that life is teaching us .

So for example – being homeless – some peoples biggest fear… was once mine, and not something I would choose or wish on anyone, however the skills you learn are huge

Survival Think fast/act fast – because if you do not it could be a matter of life and death

Resourcefulness You learn quickly what resources you need, where and how to get them

Networking – linked with above, this is the who.. make friends, make contacts, get doors open

Gratitude – it is easy to have the mentality of “i want, i need” and victim mentality of “i deserve, the world owes me” but let me tell you, this will not get you far, so instead if you can master gratitude you notice how things change.

Lessons from Gratitude

Attract more what you love and desire rather than what you do not.

Helping others through our stories

Why share all this, you may ask?

I often get asked… why do you share stories about you, surely isn’t that egotistical?

I share because…

people relate – and when we relate to others we form deeper connections

People like people who are like them – shared or similar experiences attracts similar folk

By sharing our stories we help to heal ourselves and others

If a stranger, friend or family tried to tell you what you could and could not do in your own home – how would you feel? – This is my home, my heart, my sweat and tears and I invite people into my home and my heart.

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Beat Brokenness

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This post today is about those feelings of inner brokenness and how to over come them.

Have you ever felt broken? This does mean to suggest you are actually broken, but it sure feels like that! – “Hang in there!”

I know about brokenness! Today I broke down in tears just listening to a piece of music, have you ever done that?

There was a song I had had in my mind for over two weeks.

I am not sure where it came from or why, but there I was at work, always at work with this tune in my head.

Despite not knowing what it was I was determined to find it and listen to it.

It was almost like I had a date with destiny, and I did not want to miss out on no date.

What was so important about this particular song I had to find out.

So I began my search, and there she was..

Within literally seconds I am in floods of tears. It was like meeting a friend who was waiting for me, who had been waiting for me and here I was a gibbering mess on my knees in a ball in front of them as they put their arms around me, and just held me….

They said nothing, just held me tight, and I sobbed and they held me tighter. They wanted nothing from me.. I had nothing to give, I had nothing to give.

For so so long, years and years I had held on to so much stuff, secrets, abuse. hurts, those things which I had never shared .

I had spent so long surviving it was literally making me weaker and by not dealing with the brokenness, because no one wants to hang out with sad or depressed people, I carried more and more stuff by myself.

Not only did I carry my stuff, I carried years of other peoples brokenness too because they needed someone to be  there for them and I would never take that back, they are the most beautiful soulful people ever, and I will cherish them.It has been beautiful to see them grow and know I have been a part of their journey,

I refused to ask nothing from these folks only to believe in themselves and where they wanted to be, and to see them flourish was my goal….And how they soared and me so proud.

I found however, each time as heart warming as this was, I knew at some point they would move on or I would have to move on and this has honestly been a lonely journey. As good as a friend they may have become they could not take away what was at my core, and that was fine, I knew this was my journey.

And now I sit and listen to this song on repeat “as time stands still” and it feels like I have come to a time in my life of battle battle battle and finally scarred, bitten, broken feeling, I lift my head… and say to my myself ..”I survived.…..I survived…. but now it is time to stop just existing but to live.. and this means letting go.. not just a bit,, but all…. ALL OF IT!

In this moment, this paused moment, I do not have to be strong, I do not have to be some one else’s light, I do not have to be that father, that son, that husband, that colleague, that guru, that happy go lucky person, that annoying person, the person who fails, the person who does not measure up, that person who is never good enough…

*****Here I am in my utter rawness******

This person stands and tries to lift me up…. As I am unable to stand instead they kneel beside me

kneeling beside someone
I am with you

I look up and see who it is who is there… and it is me… only a different version, it is hard to explain, but they whisper…. “I have been waiting a long time for you, I do not believe we have met properly but I have been there, you know that right?”

I nod.

“come!” he says… “It is time!”

“Time for what? “ I ask

“you will see, this is your time…………………………………………………………….”

I get up leaving all my baggage. I do not need that for where I am going. I am now free.

I am free!

It has taken a long time to get here!

As I look around behind me, those who I have helped both dead and alive are standing together ushering me on…… and together they say…..

“This is your time… thank you for helping us, but it is now time to help yourself… and guess what, if ever you need us.. we are still here, we got your back..but go now… its time to go now………”

and it reminds me from the last scene of  one of my favourite films “Labyrinth.

“should you need us.”

Thank you everyone, and thank you for reading this!

GOURANGA! (BE HAPPY)

If you have been affected by this post or can relate and want to chat about things or need someone to listen. Please do not hesitate to get in touch.

Steven Alexander,

“Aim High – Aim Higher” Alexander Simmonds

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