Feel like you are not getting any where despite how hard you try?

Feel like you are on your own, and no one listens or cares?

If either of the above is true, then lean in, come in closer, because this page, this page right here, is just for you.

Some times in life we can lose our way. There is no shame nor judgement in that and it can take the smallest of things , not just the big things to knock us off track, so how do we get back on?

is the path you are on the right one for you?

This seems rather a personal question but what it does, is gets you to think about what that means, and how this can help you.

Who are you living for? Who are you pleasing or trying to please?

Some times we live our life trying to please others and that is amazing, it is honorable but is it YOU, and do we achieve in pleasing them and does it make you happy?

If you are happy then feel free to not read further, but if you are thinking and have more questions then please stay with me.

WE ALL HAVE OUR BREAKDOWNS AND CRY MOMENTS.

You are not on your own if you do. It is human, it is natural and it is your bodys’ self defence mechanism trying to cope with what is going on.

Our minds, our hearts can only take so much! They need space to process, to think through to strategise what is next, and how to move on.

For those of who have heard of or study “Mbraining or Multiple Brain Integration Techniques MBIT for short ) we recognise that we have multiple brains that are capable of thinking.

The most common of these are the heart, the brain and the gut, although there are more.

So to give an example…..(just an example)

You might be feeling upset – heart

You need cheering up to find balance again – Mind

Gut – chocolate is the answer

Of course there may be deeper work that may need to happen but in that moment as a short fix as a band aid/plaster

“yes, chocolate gives off chemicals that makes us feel happy” – the brain – I agree to that solution.

“yes, chocolate is my comfort food and I do feel happier and I want to feel happier” – heart

“yes let’s do it” – gut

So in this scenario we say that they are all in agreement and we call this alignment.

How does this apply to my problem

Great question!

What you are going through right now, may need a quick temporary fix to get you through but may also need some deeper work.. for example if I have a puncture, I may get a puncture repair kit which will work for so long but at some point I may need to replace the tyre.

Do you want a quick fix or do you want more extensive work?

Sometimes we get lost, stuck lose our purpose, do not have a purpose, lose our identity or lose perspective, and we need help restoring those things. Sometimes when we live for others or please others we lose ourselves.

some simple top tips

  • Acknowledge the moment – look back at where you have come from to where you are now. Ask yourself : Have you grown mentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually.
  • Assess – what is not working right now, do you need help, do you have the knowledge, experience, skills to move forward, if not who has?
  • Ask and receive help – maybe you have helped others and now you need to allow others to help you . This is not a time for pride, independence or ego, this is not that time.
  • re allign.. – perhaps you came off course. Time to re adjust or head on a new setting or new journey.

If this has helped or resonates, please like share comment, or if you want help, please do get in touch to see if I can help further.

Thank you for reading .

Steven Alexander

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“Know your worth – you have value”

Welcome friends, and friends who I have not yet met.

Good to have you here.

This is a place to chill, grab a drink, maybe put some music on, and enjoy……..

I really want to start off this blog with a huge “thank you” to all who view, follow, and support this journey.

From the bottom of my heart:

thank you

 

This is merely just the start and much more to come, so buckle up folks!

There will be laughter, tears, openness, confessions, real life struggles, you name it..it is real, it is life, and what is more YOU ARE INVITED to be a part of not only my story, my journey, but also to help others.

We live in such a broken world with so many broken people, wounded, yet beautiful without being told it or know. Some people have given up thinking that there are good folks still out there, I know there are…YOU!

Many of these folk feel they have no value, nothing to offer – but I want to prove them wrong.

Many of us do not value or even know what we have to offer.

Do you ever ask yourself that – “what do I have to offer?” I know I do.

Sometimes even the offering we have does not seem to make us feel valued – can anyone relate?

So many people I know are people pleaser’s, and this is so humbling if you are one of these or who know people like these, but often deep down these are often the saddest and loneliest people I know, hiding their insecurities behind looking after others. A lot of my friends are certainly these type.

I think what is worse to hear sometimes and even sadder is when they tell me that they do not feel listened to. I always feel convicted when I hear this, because as good as I think I am at listening, I have to question, AM I a good listener?

There is a beautiful word that I like to use (and which I am working on) which is “honour” – How can I show that I honour someone, value them, show them that I am listening? If their experience is that they are not used to those things, how can I be different.

I WANT TO BE DIFFERENT! counter cultural even that.

>>>>>DARE TO BE DIFFERENT.<<<<<

I would like to leave with a beautiful quote from a blog I saw when I was thinking about this topic. It certainly gave me soul food for thought. I hope you like it.

know your worth

It’s also incredibly important to know your own value as a person. We’re all amazing, unique, gifted individuals, and yet we don’t inherently know that. We tend to place our worth in the hands of others, and usually people who don’t deserve any say in how worthy we truly are. Your worth isn’t defined by whether or not someone else loves, sees, values, appreciates, or adores you, it’s inherent. You are worthy because you’re alive. Regardless of your mistakes and failures, you’re worthy of an amazing life and complete happiness. If you want others to see and appreciate you for who you truly are, know and honour that worth. Never settle for less than you deserve, don’t tolerate being treated like garbage, and always demand the absolute best for yourself in every situation.

Please do check out the link for other ways to be seen, be loved and valued for who you really are – Perhaps one day I  could write a whole book on this.

Have a kind day:)

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God bless you and do say hello:) 

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