Have you ever said to yourself “I want to be a winner/successful!” or maybe you just know you are a winner/successful, or maybe you think you are the opposite…. when it comes to life.. inside you feel a loser.” Does any of this sound familiar?
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What makes a winner/successful person?
Have you ever heard the phrase “It doesn’t matter if you win or lose it is the taking part that counts.”
Has anyone ever said that to you? what are your thoughts? Agree/Disagree?
When I was younger these words gave me comfort when I lost at things until I began to get older. I found as I grew up I became quite used to losing.
At the time, this was hard and painful, and became just an accepted way of life for me, so I guess when it came to having to compete as I grew older, I either took a step back or did not bother as it was too much like hard work, or I did not want it enough, or I thought some one else was better than me anyway even before I tried.. and I if I was honest I probably made excuses why I could not be better.
At one point I think I even laughed at my label of being a loser, because if I accepted I was a loser it was never going to bother me if others thought that of me because I knew this anyway of myself. Does any of this sound familiar in your life or maybe you know others like this.
This year I promised myself I was going to get rid of this mentality, because truthfully was I, am I a loser….actually no!
Today I found an old pay slip from 2 years back….and it made me sad..yes I was glad I was in a job but I was barely making ends meet choosing to go part time so I could spend more time raising my kids, being there for them in there younger years and supporting at home with house hold chores and as much as I was able.
In some ways this was great, but financially this was a struggle and how others manage I do not know. I was getting fed up. I had to do something to turn life around!
I once asked my father how can I be there for my family and make a decent amount of money… he replied “you cannot have both…” I wondered if this was true and I wanted to prove that not only was this possible but could be done successfully. If I was to succeed I had to learn to be a winner, think like a winner, live as if a winner.
HAVE A WINNER/SUCCESS MENTALITY.
I had to learn what it was to have this mentality –
Lack of knowledge/experience/training: what did I know about having a winners mentality.. last time I had won anything was when I was 5 when I won my race on sports day, and once about 10 when I won a swimming race..these moments felt good, and as I looked back on the moments and those feelings I wanted those feelings again.
Suddenly I can no longer say I do not have experience as I re live those moments…. I can …. I did….I won!
Perhaps when I think hard and deep enough there are other “moments” I have achieved or felt proud but somehow these have been forgotten and i need to draw these out.
Make a start.
At some stage I am guessing you too also won at something or achieved something – you too can use those moments to make a start on your journey.
Educate yourself – train yourself – So many of us have bad experiences of education or teachers and maybe feeling a failure or a loser and perhaps you was not that person in top sets, or that person chosen to be in the team..perhaps when you think of your time in education it takes you to a time of being bullied – but you can turn this all around!
The internet now means at the touch of a button we can search for whatever we need to learn….and there are different ways you can learn from videos to websites to podcasts and now more recently the likes of amazons “Alexa” or Apples “Siri” can do the searching for free.
Cost does not have to be an issue any more or should stop you in starting as so many things are free and lots of free resources out there. Do not have your own internet? I bet many have phones..and many places in town have free WiFi or if you have a library you can use their computers or ask friends and family to use use theirs.. maybe learn something together with someone! DO NOT HAVE TO DO IT ALONE!
Try these 10 steps.
- Ask yourself what is the problem.
- What is that you really want?
- what are you currently doing about it?
- what steps can you take now?
- Set up specific goals, you need to know where you are going. …
- Take responsibility for your actions. …
- Form a winning habit. …
- Don’t be afraid to fail. …
- Be eager to learn – re focus
- Be proud of yourself
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